Handling Being Sub in Delicate Situations

by | Jun 24, 2016 | submissive etiquette

The Letter Mistress, i was wondering what is acceptable action by a submissive in those areas that someone is not usually supposed to act submissive? Especially in a situation like when a lady is definitely your Domme but she also has a “Dom”. In fact, he...

Seeking a Dominant Partner

by | May 28, 2016 | seeking dominant partner

The Question My question for this topic is do you think one should start with the dominant woman and create a relationship or find a woman that one connects with and groom her to be dominant? simeon My Answer Great question, simeon.  This is a subject that comes up...

Lift and Carry Fetish

by | Oct 11, 2013 | lift and carry fetish

The Letter I have a weird fetish.  How do I tell my wife about my Lift and Carry fetish?  When we first met we used to give each other piggybacks.  After we married it stopped.  I messed up by not telling her prior to our marriage.  I asked for a piggyback last month...

Merging Sex and Spirituality

by | May 23, 2013 | bdsm and spirituality

The Letter Dear Miss Violet, Do you feel it is possible to be involved in a BDSM relationship that is both sexual and spiritual?  To me, sex feels very spiritual. Your submissively, sweet pet My Answer Thank you for writing.  Merging sex and spirituality is a topic I...

Telling Your Secret

by | Feb 4, 2013 | sharing your fetish

The Letter Hello Mistress.   I have a little question.  How risky is it to tell my girlfriend about my fetish?  I love my girlfriend and I would like to stay with her,  but I think that she doesn’t like such fetishes (CBT and foot fetish).   I don’t want...