Fetish & BDSM Questions

Fetish & BDSM Questions

A Place to Ask Questions I began this blog five years ago to give you a place to ask your fetish & BDSM questions, and get informed, discreet answers.  You responded with a flurry of emails asking about all sorts of kinky topics.  It has been a lot of fun...

Keeping CBT Safe

The Question: I would like to know how long is proper to leave a sub in CBT?  Now, I know that there are several thoughts of what CBT should stand for.  I used to prefer Cock, Bondage & Torture to Cock & Ball Torture.  Of course, it actually stands for...

Avoid Being a Doormat

The Question:  What is a “doormat” and how do you know if you are one? In books and forums I have seen people write about “true submission” as caring only about what your dominant wants, and putting your own desires aside.  I have to admit, I find it appealing to...

Handling Being Sub in Delicate Situations

The Letter Mistress, i was wondering what is acceptable action by a submissive in those areas that someone is not usually supposed to act submissive? Especially in a situation like when a lady is definitely your Domme but she also has a “Dom”. In fact, he...

Seeking a Dominant Partner

The Question My question for this topic is do you think one should start with the dominant woman and create a relationship or find a woman that one connects with and groom her to be dominant? simeon My Answer Great question, simeon.  This is a subject that comes up...