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The Question
Dear Miss Violet, I have noticed a kind of feeling I get if a woman mentions something or says something that feels emasculating to me. I noticed this first when I was in High School and heard a female mention penis size. She emphasized how important it was. It totally got my attention. As time went on I thought or assessed that I was not real “big” and each time I would overhear or be involved in some type of conversation like that or a female would talk about “size” and it’s importance I would kind of “freeze”. I could not believe my response was not noticed.
A couple of times a female playfully suggested I put on or try on panties. I had the same kind of “freeze” response. Like I could not object or say no. I want to be clear – it was not a “thought” but more of a visceral, physical kind of response to the females. All I can say is it is a kind of submissiveness that gets activated (strongly) any time women talk about size (especially if they are talking about how much they value it). It is a deep kind of feeling.
Do you know what that “feeling” is? Is it just embarrassment? Submissiveness? Is it a female somehow tapping into something I thought I was hiding or, at least, did not know she knew or sensed?
My Answer
I would say that what you describe is being humiliated, yet excited. It causes a reaction that feels like your body and mind have frozen. It is not unusual for this sensation to become mixed up with your sexual desires.
At some point, you find yourself seeking situations that give you that same feeling. If you enjoy it, then have fun. If it bothers you, I suggest some sort of therapy. There is one form of therapy that can eliminate that desire for humiliation very quickly.
Everybody is Different
If you describe yourself as submissive, these early situations of humiliation likely helped to reinforce this aspect of your personality. To me, it sounds as if you now enjoy the sensations of being embarrassed about the small size of your cock; even if the woman you are talking with has no idea that you are the possessor of a small dick.
My personal belief is that anything two (or more) consenting adults do between themselves is fine. So I say don’t waste any time worrying about what the feeling is and simply enjoy it! Any size cock can have a satisfying sex life. Delivered properly, humiliation becomes erotic and that is a very exciting experience.
To me humiliation can definitely add a new twist to any sensual situation. Take me for example I believe I fall into the average size dick category but have never to my face anyway say my dick was small. However I believe there isn’t a dominate bone in my body. I do admit I have a domineering mother so maybe that’s why I am the way I am. Now when I attempt to role play & become Dr Freud. I believe that humiliation is a tool for the Dom to push the submissive to expand their horizons. If the submissive is truly submissive than he or she will do whatever it takes to please their Dom. Take Ms Constance & myself for example. We have been together for 3 years now I think in that time we started out with a panty fetish , over the years under Her watch I have dressed totally fem, sucked cock, become addicted to shoving and bouncing things into my slave cave, and when allowed I do eat cum. Throughout the years She has humiliated me but not always in a mean or spiteful way. I think it’s Her way of planting a seed. When called me a cocksucker, in my desire to please Her I have sucked numerous cocks. Even had pictures taken to prove that yes I am Her cocksucker. When She introduced me to anal penetration I have videoed myself bouncing on my lover Mr Dildo 9 inches of pure heaven. We are progressing to cuckolding now not sure how I am going to show my loyalty to Her yet but if the opportunity arises I’ll figure out something. In each of these senarios Ms Constance used a form of humiliation and each time it flicked a trigger that caused me to become what She desires me to be, so I must admit humiliation is a very effective when it comes to roleplay
I am really glad you shared your experiences with us, Jazmine. This perfectly illustrates my point, that humiliation can become erotic over time. It is fascinating how the human mind and sexually work. Clearly, you have found the right Mistress for you, Jazmine. By the way…I adore Ms Constance! Even if she can’t help giving all of her money to hot female strippers. *wink*
What kind of therapy can help me to fight the desire for humiliation.i called the cumeating line for kicks one day and now I seemed hooked. A mistress has me in chastity and after time period I have to consume. She is very sweet to me and all this does is make me crave humiliation even more. Again, is there a theray that can make me stop craving humiliation?
Yes, todd, there is a therapy. But, since I know you, I am positive that stopping your craving for humiliation is the last thing you want to do. You love it far too much! *laugh* Now if you ever get serious about wanting to stop, give me a call and I will discuss that with you. Absolutely.