We Need To Talk

To folks in a relationship, those words can be very scary. While that may be true, I also think those words can be a gateway to freedom, honesty and, sometimes, a much better relationship. One of the reasons for uttering those words is one’s sexuality. Sexuality can be very complicated. It took me a while to realize my broad and eclectic tastes. But once I embraced those tastes, it set me on a path of discovery. I learned not to count anything or anyone out. That discovery not only led to my interest in sissies and t-girls, but it also helped open me up to the wide array of kinks and fetishes that I now enjoy.

I well understand the complicated nature of discovering your sexuality. And I certainly understand how difficult it can be to reveal your sexuality to someone else. It may feel as if you could never to admit to your girlfriend or wife that you have a kink or fetish. It’s hard to deny an essential part of yourself, but equally difficult to risk a relationship that has great value and, perhaps, many years of investment. So, not only do you have to say, “we need to talk.” But you have to follow it up with, “Honey, I like cock” or “Sweetheart, I want to wear your panties” or “Love of my life, I really want to see you get fucked by another guy.”

In my twenties, I was reluctant to discuss my sexuality. Unless I sensed that someone shared my freakiness, I would generally keep it to myself. And like a lot of guys, I was good at the “cut and run.” Fortunately, there were always other options. But I didn’t like that I wasn’t being honest about why I was ending things with someone. Eventually, I did two things. First, I started to only sexually engage with folks who shared my kinks and fetishes. Second, I was always up front about my situation: I was not into monogamy. I slept with men, women and t-girls. And I was into a lot of kinky stuff. I didn’t want anyone to feel led on or confused about who I was.

There were some very uncomfortable moments during my early confessions. But once I got some practice, it became easier. However, I have lived what most would consider a very unconventional life. I never had to “confess” to someone with whom I was in a long-term relationship and risk it’s potential end. For some, the risks are too great. There is too much at stake. I get that. I truly do understand the complicated nature of this issue. But I also know that keeping that information from someone can cause significant problems.

As an advocate of full disclosure, I always recommend being honest about who you are. And I readily acknowledge that there are potential consequences in doing so. But there is also potential for an upside: being with someone who accepts who you are and with whom you’re able to share yourself fully.

For an erotic phone sex session with Mathew, call 800-601-6975
Must be 18+
Calls are $2.50 per minute, with a 10 minute minimum
Discreetly billed to your credit card
http://ratemycall.com