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The Question
Is it odd for me to have this type of fetish? Is it okay for me to embrace it? What can i do to further my exploration of this fetish?
little luke
My Advice
Thank you for writing to me about your enjoyment of wearing panties. I know coming out and asking like this is not easy, but this is a great place to get answers to these questions that have been bothering you. A few of your statements give me a lot of information about you. You are not into feminization. You enjoy women and consider yourself a typical guy. I presume by that, you mean heterosexual.
So it seems that you are what is known as a Panty Boy. A straight man who happens to enjoy wearing panties, or other lingerie.
Is it Odd?
No, it is a fetish. Most people have at least one. You are far from alone. I invite you to visit my blog on the topic of men wearing panties. You will find that you are far from alone in enjoying the touch of pretty panties on your flesh. It is actually quite a popular fetish, and one I consider to be mild. What I mean by that is that many women would be okay with their man wearing panties.
Some men are all about the fabric itself and how it feels on their body. Others like the taboo angle they feel there is to wearing panties. Some, I have known, were introduced to the fetish by a woman in their life, so they learned to embrace it.
Is it Okay?
Absolutely! I encourage you to allow yourself to explore it; and enjoy it to the fullest your circumstances will allow. The thing about a fetish is that they run deep in a person’s psyche. They do not go away. By indulging in your panty fetish on a regular basis, it lessens the potential that your fetish will build to a boil, spew out and upset your life in ways you would not enjoy.
Wear panties under your man clothes when you can. Wearing panties to work adds a special dash of excitement!
Furthering the Fun
There are a lot of ways to increase the fun you are having with wearing panties. Some of them include shopping, whether online or in person; trying panty stroking games, which you can find on my panty boy blog, and getting your partner involved. If you do not know how to approach that, consider setting up a phone sex session for couples.
In a phone sex session, you can discuss the details of how you can have more panty wearing fun!
It was the sheer terror of one of the first assignments. I was told I had to buy my own panties no longer could I steal for a while from her drawer. Not only that but I was ordered not to buy them online I was to purchase them from a shop. There was terror and also a thrill I had never done anything like this before. It seemed such a simple matter but for it wasn’t. it seems a bit silly now – but the tasks has been completed. I can still recall my very red face as I asked the girl assistant to help select a silky pair.
Oh but when I got home and put them on and displayed them to my Mistress. The feeling of submission in completing the task the feeling of surrender standing in front of my Mistress wearing my new silk panties.
Do you remember that day Mistress Violet
As if I could forget that session slave tom. *smile* I was very proud of you, and rather amused at your continuing embarrassment. But you did it!!! More assignments yet to come for you.
Thank You again for posting my letter. Your reply was great!
You are welcome little luke. That is what this blog is all about. It is a place to come to with questions you don’t know where else to ask. I enjoy using my years of experience in both counseling AND the fetish world to help you fine gentlemen.
i love to wear panties whenever i can and totally understand – they help me to feel more feminine and submissive. My love of panties caught me a bit by surprise but then became the path to a whole new set of experiences. Go with it and enjoy, something inside you might be calling.
You never know what moment in life will lead to the realization of a full-fledged fetish. Your story is a great example of that susan. Thank you for sharing it.
I find this particular topic very intriguing because I have always considered myself very heterosexual but at the same time, very submissive to women sexually. I started wearing panties and bras during puberty and except for a short period in my late teens and early twenties, I have worn them ever since. Where it gets difficult for me to understand is that I never wanted to “be” a girl. I have always wanted to be a guy who was under the control of a girl. In other words, occasionally punished by being exposed as a sissy in a limited setting like a girl’s girlfriends.
I have never been interested in guys. They bore me. I like talking to and being with girls so I have always been a bit confused as to what I really am. I am not an A-type personality but I guess I am kind of dominant in the business world because I have been very successful and I enjoy making others happy by exploiting my talents to help them. My wife says I’m too “controlling” sometimes and there-for, would probably be a terrible sub. She says I top from the bottom constantly but that’s only because she started out vanilla and while she loves all the new kinky stuff I show her, She still looks for me to lead the scene because she just doesn’t seem to possess the imagination or is a bit too timid to do something she thinks I may not like. So it’s tricky.
For me, it’s all about pleasing the Lady. Whatever I can think of to make her happy. And I mean “anything”, as long as she is happy and we are monogamous about it. My Princess is a lot like you in that she is quite sensuous and loving. That’s why I find your brand of dominance so appealing. Just reading your pages leaves me tingling. I really hope that you get to experience all the incredible benefits that a panty-boy can show you, if that’s even what I am. And I apologize for monopolizing your pages but you are so fascinating.
Well hello there sweet Davina! You are not monopolizing my pages. I am open to relevant comments from anyone on any of my postings. You are taking me up on that and I love it! Intelligent, relevant comments such as yours really add to the fun of reading a blog. We have a little community going here where we are all friends and can be open in our discussions. Doesn’t that feel great?
You have such a level head Davina. I appreciate how you want to enjoy your fetish, yet you always keep the welfare of your lovely wife in mind. No wonder you two have such an incredible relationship. Yay for you! *smile*
I have had amazing panty boys in my life. We have experienced most (and more) of the fun I write about in this blog. That’s how I know so much about the joys of being a panty boy. *wink*