The Letter
When I am in session with my Mistress, I feel very feminine. Also, when I am crossdressed, I feel like a woman. But I can’t be in session or in female clothing all of the time. What can I do to feel more feminine on a day-to-day basis? Especially interested in very discreet ways.
Signed…Pretty in Pink
Dressing
I strongly suggest wearing something feminine every day, if you can. It can be panties, stockings, a camisole, necklace, or even a lovely unisex cologne. Having at least one item on your body, as you go about your day, keeps you in touch with your feminine side. A subtle reminder of this very important aspect of who you are without letting anyone else know your secret.
Entertainment
Listen to music women love, watch chick flicks, pick up Oprah magazine and thumb through it. This puts you in a female state of mind. Because feeling feminine is also about your mind. What you are thinking about, and the type of input your brain gets. Doing this also gives you something to chat about with women friends.
Girlfriends
This leads into another important part of feeling feminine: having at least one girl friend to do girly things with. It could be a salad lunch out, chatting over coffee, discussing a movie, talking about fashions…anything that you enjoy doing with your girl friends. There is something special about being “one of the girls”.
A girl friend can be found at work, amongst your current friends, at the coffee shop, the book store. Just about anywhere you run into women!
Around the House
Try doing feminine household tasks, such as dusting, baking, cooking, laundry. Some of these chores may be currently handled by the woman of the house. She will be thrilled to have you take them over, and will not know it is to help yourself stay in a female frame of mind.
One of my sissies has found special pleasure in doing housework in a frilly, 50′s style apron when home alone. He enjoys getting into a Donna Reed head space.
Meditations
A custom meditation can reinforce both your desire to feel feminine, and your goals in that direction. I recently had a sissy call me and read me the meditation she wrote in my honor. I will let her tell you more about that.
My name is susan and i belong to Mistress Violet as one of her submissives. With her guidance, the reality of my feminization and the completeness of my submission grow stronger every day. i love the feminine touches that are becoming more and more present daily, in style and appearance, physical gestures and ways of seeing and feeling the world around me. i like it best when wearing sexy panties, a pretty dress and a sweet perfume. i joyfully embrace my submission to Mistress Violet offering myself to her control and feeling the power of her embrace as Mistress.
Conclusion
I hope you gained at least one idea that will work for you. These are but a few suggestions. If my readers have other suggestions, I welcome you to post them here as a comment.
Ms Violet-Your Kink Advisor
I love the idea of a daily meditation. A special time set aside every day to dwell upon my Mistress. To recognise the pleasure I get in her presence and to look to developing my feminine side. To wear a feminine item during this time only increases the feeling of submissiveness during such mediations
I knew this idea would appeal to you slave tom. It fits your personality very well. When you are able to do sessions again, let’s make this one of your very first assignments. And that will be how we start out sessions from then on.
Dear Mistress Thank you for posting my daily Meditation to you. To me it is a very special part of my day that i look forward to and it helps to put me into a special frame of mind and spirit, helping me to embrace and nurture the precious feminine spirit within me.
You are welcome susan. I have had a number of callers comment on how beautiful it is. They had never considered writing and reading a devotional for their Mistress…but they are now. Thank you for sharing yours with everyone!
I am not able to immerse myself in the luxury of feeling as feminine as possible as often as i would like. If too much time goes by i miss being able to make that connection with my feminine self. When i commented on this to Mistress she suggested that i make a point of wearing panties at work each day. i have been doing so for the last three weeks and went out and bought several more pairs of panties so that i could do so. i love to know that i am slipping them on and that at various points during the day i get a warm feeling knowing that i am being increasingly feminized in my daily life. It is very special to feel that i perhaps i am pleasing Mistress Violet a bit each day by making this progress.
You are pleasing me every day by wearing panties daily susan. It pleases me that we have found a way for you to stay in close touch with your femininity on an ongoing basis. You need that and I thoroughly enjoy sharing the journey with you. *hugs*