A Casual Event
The Letter
My first lifestyle club munch is finally scheduled. I have no idea what to expect. What do I do? How do I act? Do I just sit submissively in the corner? Do I venture out and talk to people? I want to find some one to share my fantasies. I am an older man who has wanted to be submissive to a woman for a long time. Won’t most people my age have already made contacts into the community?
Signed…Eager to be a pet
My Response
A munch is a casual gathering of kinky minded people. Usually they meet at a public place, such as a local restaurant. Dress code is most often casual. No one will be wearing clearly dominant or submissive clothing. They like to keep things vanilla in public settings. This makes it a very easy event for newbies to attend.
You will sit around a table, talking, having something to eat and drink. A munch is about getting a feel for the members of a lifestyle club, and they for you.
What You Do
Be yourself. Shake hands, introduce yourself, ask questions, talk with people. While there is no need to be particularly submissive, it is a good idea if you do not dominate the conversation, talk too loudly, or ask questions that could be construed as too personal. If people ask, let them know that you are submissive. Most will already know that about you. Yes, there is such a thing as a sub-dar. *smile* There will be other submissives there for you to talk with and this becomes important if you decide to attend the club.
The Partner Pool
I applaud your desire to find a lifestyle dominant to share your fetishes with. That is the ideal situation. Kinky clubs are a great place to meet potential partners, and play partners as well. What I mean by that is dominant women who do not have a partner, but wish to scene with you either at the club or in private. To “scene” is to actually explore your mutual fetishes together. It could be foot worship, male chastity, flogging, body worship, spanking, or other fun activities.
Your age is irrelevant. There will be people in a wide range of ages at most kinky clubs. While many will be coupled up, some dominant women will be seeking additional partners, and others will be between partners and looking for someone just as you are.
What Then?
If you have a good time at the munch, and you like the people there, you may want to arrange a visit at the club itself. A good first club visit can be an educational night. There are usually regular classes on topics such as fire play, rope bondage, and puppy play. Most people wear street clothing. You will be visiting with people you met at the munch, sitting and watching a demonstration, asking questions, then chatting with people afterward. Another easy event to attend, even as a submissive attending alone.
If any of you have other questions about a munch, leave me a comment. If you have a fetish question of your own, email it to me: violet@enchantrixempire.com. Please your Mistress and put “Your Kink Advisor” in the Subject Line.
Your Kink Advisor- Mistress Violet
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